Celebrating Autumn

Celebrating Autumn

By JeanAnn Taylor

When publisher Tammy Sheppard called to tell me her idea of creating a high-quality magazine designed for women by women, I was thrilled! We know women are powerful consumers, making 83% of all buying decisions. This includes 91% of new homes, 92% of vacations, and 65% of new cars. Add food, clothing, and healthcare for themselves and their families, and they have a substantial percentage of influence. With this in mind, women deserve a magazine specifically created for them.

Along with a new magazine, we embark on a new season; the first day of autumn is September 23, and we begin by celebrating Labor Day. This holiday was created by the labor movement in the late nineteenth century to pay tribute to American workers. It is dedicated to the social and economic achievement of those who work to make our country strong and prosperous. It became a federal holiday in 1894. Today, America is enjoying the lowest unemployment rate since 1969. The unemployment rate for women dropped to 3.1% this past spring – the lowest since 1953. Now that is something to celebrate!

As a passionate dressmaker, quilter, and lover of any-and-every thing to do with fabric, needles, and thread, I enjoy celebrating National Sewing Month each September. Sewing is not only fun and functional, it is an important life skill mistakenly (in my opinion) taken out of our public school system. If you want to sew, but are not sure where to start, visit a fabric store, take a sewing class, or join a sewing circle. If you are looking for a way to express yourself, sewing can take you wherever you want to go.

As you read this editorial in the safety of your home, my son is serving our country in Afghanistan. This war, which began after America was attacked on September 11, 2001, is now the longest in our country’s history. In Afghanistan alone we’ve had nearly 2,300 casualties, and over 20,000 of our military have come home physically wounded–I imagine all of them come home with emotional scars. The only way I can, as a Military Mom, get through this time is to be the person worthy of my son fighting for. I know the best way to honor him is to honor myself. So, while I may feel like crawling into a hole, instead I’m going to take care of myself. The last thing I want to do is to give him something else to worry about while he is on the other side of our planet eating cafeteria food, sleeping in a bunk, and carrying heavy equipment while wearing a bullet-proof vest under his combat uniform–in 99+ degree heat. So, I’ll be strong, and smart, and when he comes home, I’ll breathe again.

When I hear the chirping of the cicadas, I know summer is nearing its end. Their enchanting call lures me outside to sit quietly and listen. You can squeeze a little more fun into these last days of summer by going for a hike to search for early-fall wildflowers like asters, witch hazel, joe-pye weed, and goldenrod; wading in cold, creek water before the temperature drops; picking apples at an apple farm, then baking a pie; watching a sunset from a hilltop.

The month of September is the perfect time to start a new venture. The shift in the air creates an anticipation of something new. I’m honored to be part of a magazine that will truly inspire, inform, and entertain. We’ll have information on health, relationships, gardening, fashion, beauty, and lots more. We’ll tell the story of successful, local women; give you ideas for decorating; and share recipes. You may not love everything you read in SOFIA, but you’ll find something you love each issue. I hope you enjoy the premier issue of SOFIA for Today’s Woman!

Please send your thoughts and ideas to me at jeananntaylor @rewnc.com

Back to School… Not as Usual

Back to School… Not as Usual

By Cheri Torres

Summer’s over, kids are back in school. What if this year we make it a remarkably different year for our kids—all our kids? What if we contribute to their happiness and learning every time we talk to them? How?

Research in the areas of positive education, positive psychology, and neuroscience tells us why our conversations are so important. Our brains are wired for two dominant activities. The first and primary activity of the brain is to keep us safe. Our nervous system is always scanning incoming stimuli for safety: Have I experienced this before? Will this harm me? If the answer is yes or maybe, our protect system is triggered. Stress hormones are released: cortisol, norepinephrine, testosterone, adrenalin. The more threatening the stimulus, the greater the chemical dump as our body and brain prepare to fight, flee, freeze, or appease. Neuroscience has shown that this biochemical reaction literally inhibits development of, and access to, the pre-frontal lobe and neocortex. When we need it most, our creativity and critical thinking are unavailable.

The other dominant activity our brain is wired for is learning and creativity. Barbara Fredrickson, a UNC Chapel Hill Professor, has shown that learning (and thriving) takes place in the context of positive emotions such as love, interest, happiness, contentment, curiosity, empathy, compassion, and care.  Her research shows that these emotions broaden and build our capacity for learning, creativity, and connection with others. These functions take place in the pre-frontal lobe and neocortex. Neuroscience tells us that an entirely different set of hormones are necessary for us to develop and access higher order thinking centers. They are known as the love/happiness hormones: oxytocin, serotonin, dopamine, and endorphins. These hormones help us connect to our higher order thinking capacities, long term memory, and creativity. They also give us greater access to empathy and connection with others.

If we want all children to grow, learn, and thrive, then we need to create environments that fuel the production of the happiness/love hormones. This is required for pre-frontal and neocortex neurological development and access. One of the primary ways we do this–or not–is through every day communication. For teachers and parents this is critical information; your words are more than words. They carry the power to ignite learning and growth, or suppress it. This may sound like a lot of responsibility. It is. The conversations we have trigger protect or nurture connect (for everyone, including ourselves). We can choose to nurture connect, even in the most challenging of situations.

Two simple practices will support you in doing this: generative questions and positive framing. Generative questions change the way people think, and they create compelling images that move us to action. For example, if a child is acting out, instead of making quick judgments and admonishing the child, you might pause first and ask yourself: What might be going on for the child that’s resulting in this behavior? This might encourage you to look at their actions in the larger context causing you to further wonder: Are they stressed about the test? Did something happen at lunch? What might have happened at home before they arrived? These questions shift your thinking about the child. Such curiosity is a positive emotion; you yourself begin to have greater access to your pre-frontal cortex. From that place, you are more likely to respond with compassion, curiosity, and care, which in turn will have a different impact on the child. You might simply ask, with genuine curiosity, “What’s going on for  you today?”

The second practice is positive framing. Talk about what you want instead of what you don’t want. Instead of telling kids what not to do, have a conversation about the outcomes you want and invite them to identify what they need to do to achieve that outcome. They just might surprise you with their creativity and awareness. For example, a mother was frustrated by continuous arguments with her son about driving around with friends and not letting her know where he was going. She kept demanding he let her know and he kept deflecting that he didn’t always know, and she should just trust him! Then, she learned about positive framing and generative questions. First, she asked herself: Why do I want to know where he is all the time? What is it I really want? Do I trust him? She realized what she wanted was the assurance he was safe. So that’s how she framed the next conversation. She opened with, “I realize I just want to know you are safe when you’re out with your friends. I totally trust you, but I don’t fully trust a couple of your friends. What can we do so you can have your freedom and I know you’re safe?” The whole conversation shifted. He shared that he didn’t want her to worry and he knew exactly which friends she was talking about. They arrived at a solution that allowed both of them to get their needs met and they did it together.

This year, make it a year where you help every child you interact with grow, learn, and thrive. Commit to having conversations worth having with them. For a free Conversation Toolkit, including a parent page on questions to ask your kids and questions to ask your children’s teachers visit

ConversationsWorthHaving.today.

Cheri Torres is a Lead Catalyst for positive change and organization consultant with Collaborative by Design.

Cover Story – Terri King

Cover Story – Terri King

By Sandi Tomlin-Sutker

“Great captains aren’t made from calm seas.”  Proverb

Terri King had the words of this proverb sitting on her desk; after the 2008 recession hit and the real estate market crashed, she realized it was true. “I knew the experience was bound to make me better, and it did.” The road to her current life as owner of Coldwell Banker King in Western North Carolina was a winding one; very much like the roads of her native Leicester, NC, community. Terri comes from many generations of tough mountain people and a long line of entrepreneurs. Her first year of college was spent at UNC Chapel Hill’s dental school; realizing she didn’t want to “be in people’s mouths” all her life, she heard that she could get a college degree riding horses (her first love) so she pursued that route. After gaining her degree in Animal Science at NC State, she worked first as an agricultural extension agent in Clay County, NC. Her next job gave her a pioneering opportunity: she became the first female tobacco extension agent in the largest Burley tobacco producing county in the state… Madison.

By the early 2000’s Burley production was dwindling and Terri realized two things: “I thought it was time for me to figure out what I wanted to do in my life, and I realized it was time for me to get a master’s degree.”  Following the entrepreneurial call, she was in the first cohort graduating with a degree in Entrepreneurship from Western Carolina University. Given that her family are all in some kind of housing, mortgage, or construction business, real estate was an easy decision. She was the first in her family to break into the brokerage area of the business, getting her license in 2003.

“It’s been one of the best experiences I’ve ever had in terms of professional and personal growth. I like to be right in the middle of things that matter. The land is where it all starts, it’s how we exist and live. Wars are fought over land. It is the most powerful asset class in the world, and I enjoy having that as my area of expertise.”

Because Coldwell Banker had a stellar reputation for their real estate training, she started her career there. “In those days you didn’t have the rule where you had to work for two years under another broker, so within a year I was operating a little boutique real estate company.  Like most of us at that time I thought it was never going to end. I did a lot of risky things, bought a lot of “toys” … I’d never really had anything growing up so to be able to buy a motorcycle, a fast car, and a house with a million-dollar view, I was eating that up!”

But things did end, with a crash. So, she fell back on the master’s project she had created: a business plan for New Leaf Historical Woodworking. “Tobacco barns were just sitting or being torn or burned down. They had so much history and I thought of taking them down to salvage the wood. Because I’m a writer, I gathered oral history around each barn with the idea of creating ‘mint coin’ furniture pieces that would come with a certificate of authenticity, a photo of the barn and its story. That idea landed me in articles in Sophie magazine and Southern Living.”

Since she didn’t have the skills or equipment to build the furniture, she brought in a Madison County craftsman who did. Doing that work kept her spirits up to some extent but still, she had lost everything she’d worked so hard for in the worst recession since the Great Depression. “I’ll never forget every time I’d lay down at night, I’d get this pain… it’s called anxiety. I sort of got aggravated about it! One of the things I learned is that you have to act, you can’t just wallow in it. One night in January, at 1:00 a.m., aggravated with that pain in my chest, I got up and made ‘hot laps’ in the neighborhood in nothing but my robe. By the time I got that worked out I knew what I was going to do. I went back to the house, laid down, and never had that pain again.” What she did was something called “strategic default” where she made a decision: this investment is going to be underwater for as long as I’m alive. As difficult as it was it proved to be a good thing in the end. “With what reserves I had I was able to move forward in a different direction. I got rid of my toys, let the house go, moved with my kid into a 700 square foot apartment and just tried to beat the pavement from there.  I never gave up.”

And then she got “lucky”! She invested $170 in a sign to sell a farm near Marshall on the 25-70 Bypass. A woman from New Orleans wanted to buy land where she could have a business. The agent on the first place she looked into couldn’t get it rezoned commercial. Partly because of her determination, and the fact that she was a well-known local, she was able to get three acres rezoned and the result was the location for a new rafting company. “She paid cash and I had both sides of the deal which gave me the ability to negotiate my debt on my two mortgages since I now had cash, and with what was left I went after a Coldwell Banker franchise.” If she had given up and gone bankrupt that would have killed any chance of getting the franchise.

“I gambled every penny I had and still needed to have a partner, so I got the experience of going after capital.” Coldwell Banker corporate turned her down twice; she just didn’t ‘fit the bill’ for them. But back 16 years ago, when she decided to go into real estate, she knew she wanted to be a major player in the industry. “I love the business and the game of business; it’s fun. I kinda forgot about that earlier vision, but the subconscious doesn’t forget.”

“I told Coldwell Banker corporate ‘you have a problem with your brand in my market and I think I can help you.’ I built an unconventional business plan with very little money put into brick and mortar fixed costs. I coined the phrase ‘facilitating the mobility of the agent’: keeping a small footprint, outsourcing and automating anything we could, meant we could ebb and flow with the market.”

For the past 18 years Terri has studied Science of Mind ideas, learning from writers like Napoleon Hill who said, if the answer is “No,” it just means your plans aren’t sound. “Finally, after another franchise sales person from corporate met with me he went back to the office and told them: ‘If you don’t give this girl a franchise, someone else will and you don’t want her on the other side.’” Her financial partner helped her meet those money requirements and she was able to pick up the franchise. “I had decided I was comfortable with failure as long as I tried my best. We bootstrapped what corporate said would take about half a million dollars with about $140,000.”

Terri asked Bridget Adams, who was with the former franchisee, to come on with her to help manage the business. About five or six agents who were committed to the brand came over as well. It has grown from that level in 2011 to its current 100 agents. 

As much as business has been Terri’s passion and focus, she actually credits being a single mother as the thing that made her, as she says, “a far better person that I ever wanted to be.” She came about having a daughter, Jewelian, now just turning 15, in a very unconventional way. “She was actually my niece. My older brother and his girlfriend had her and when she was eight months old, she came to me. During that time, I was supposed to show this 100-acre farm (priced at $10,000 per acre) in Big Pine to a man on a Saturday. I’d just suddenly become a single mom and didn’t have resources yet, like a babysitter. So, I bought a Kelty backpack, put her in it and when I got out of my truck to greet the buyer, I introduced him to her and said she was my helper today. By the time we got back down the mountain he was giving her the sippy cup and wiping her nose. I’d had this kid for barely two weeks and still managed to put a deal together and sold the property. By the way, that was almost my first million-dollar land sale, except the survey came in just under 100 acres!”

What the Future Holds

“There’s a lot of room in this industry as a whole to innovate, create and disrupt. We hope that our little nucleus at Coldwell Banker King can be positive disrupters. Our industry has been plagued with competency issues with agents coming from certain business models that have evolved over time. Our goal is to affect the reputation and quality of service by being a part of the transaction every time. We can illustrate how it can be by growing good agents who do the right things every time. We’re dealing with what is usually a person’s largest asset and they are counting on us. We take that seriously.”

Finally, it’s important to look at the full person, not just the business person. Two years ago, Terri introduced her team to her #FitForBusiness initiative. It is open to all agents although they are not required to participate. Recently she and some team members participated in the Spartan Races, one in Charlotte, NC, (three mile race with 20 obstacles) and she and one other agent did the Black Mountain Super Race of nine miles with 31 obstacles… think Mud Runs, lifting and rolling huge truck tires over, and keep in mind, Black Mountain is IN the mountains, so what goes down must come up again. 

On the white board in Terri King’s home garage gym are written the words of her life philosophy: LIVE WELL – DIE STRONG. “My hope is that all women can live in those words,” she says, and that “women helping women will play a huge roll in future success for all.”

Sandi Tomlin-Sutker is a freelance writer and editor. Contact her at [email protected]

How to Beat the Seasonal Sniffles

How to Beat the Seasonal Sniffles

By Natasha Kubis

“There are moments when all anxiety and stated toil are becalmed in the infinite leisure and repose of nature.”

   – Henry David Thoreau

Mr.Thoreau was a master of words when describing the profound beauty of our natural world, but I do wonder if his perspective would differ had he suffered from allergies. Nature is our temple, our sacred place to find solace, but for more than half the population who suffer from allergies, being in nature can feel as though the immune system is at war. Finding solace in between all of the sneezing and tissues can present quite the challenge.

Seasonal allergies (also called hay fever) are common. They occur during certain times of the year–particularly the spring, summer, or fall and can be triggered by pollen, grasses, weeds, and molds. Hay fever can make the nose, throat, and eyes itchy and irritated. Sneezing is common and the nose may become runny and stuffed up, potentially leading to headaches and sinus infections. Symptoms can feel relentless and intrusive when trying to enjoy a splendid hike in Appalachia or tending to the garden. So why is our immune system reacting to nature with such pesky side effects?

The immune system is our body’s defense against elements from the outside that are potentially harmful. However, with allergies, the immune system mistakes harmless bits of proteins as harmful invaders and misidentifies the proteins found in the pollens of trees and grasses as noxious invaders. The hyperactive immune system then creates Immunoglobulin E (IgE), a type of antibody produced by the immune system, to help fight the perceived threat. On every subsequent exposure to the proteins, the antigen IgE stimulates the immune system to create histamine and other chemicals in response, leading to hay fever. Histamine is a compound which is released by cells in response to allergic and inflammatory reactions, causing contraction of smooth muscle and dilation of capillaries.

Pollen is not inherently bad for our health, but a weakened immune system is. Common treatments for seasonal allergies target inflammation in the sinuses and include steroid nasal sprays, antihistamines, decongestants and immunotherapy in the form of allergy shots. There are natural ways to combat allergies in addition to traditional methods which include the following suggestions.

Irrigation

Regularly flushing out the sinuses with a warm water and salt (saline) solution may help loosen and wash out mucus and hydrate the nasal lining. This technique is called sinus irrigation. Also, bathing the eyes with plain eyewashes (such as Artificial Tears) can help reduce irritation.

Acupuncture

This ancient technique can help boost a weakened immune system or re-balance an over-active immune system by stimulating anti-inflammatory mechanisms in the body. Typically, patients fighting allergies have compromised immune function. In this case, acupuncture works with the body to bolster the production of white blood cells and strengthen the immune system’s resistance to infection by increasing its lymphocyte count and activity. Recent research has examined some of the mechanisms of acupuncture’s anti-inflammatory effects which include down-regulation of pro-inflammatory chemicals in the body that can enhance and prolong inflammatory response.

Nutrition

Nutrition plays an important role in maintaining a healthy immune system. It is wise to limit products that cause excess inflammation in the body. These high histamine instigators include alcohol, tobacco, sugar, wheat, dairy, caffeine, saturated fat, smoked meats, and highly processed foods. There are many foods with strong anti-inflammatory properties. These include:

  Local, raw honey: This sweet nectar can help allergy symptoms by regularly exposing you to local pollen–not unlike the concept of how allergy shots work. Allergy injections help desensitize pollen-allergic people by exposing them to a specific pollen.

  Turmeric: This root has very strong anti-inflammatory, antioxidant and anticancer properties. It comes in supplement form but it is also worth buying fresh turmeric root from the grocery store and using it in smoothies, soups, and other dishes.

  Ginger: This plant is another natural antihistamine and decongestant. It may provide some relief from allergy symptoms by dilating constricted bronchial tubes.

  Quercetin: This is a flavonol, a plant-derived nutrient, that can reduce allergic reactions through its antihistamine effect. It also decreases inflammation and is found in apples, cranberries, grapefruit, grapes, pears, spinach, kale, and cabbage.

  Magnesium: This essential mineral may open constricted airways in asthma by relaxing the muscles around the bronchial tubes. Sources of magnesium include almonds, spinach, avocados, oysters, seeds, and buckwheat.

  Beta-Carotene: This helps boost immunity and keeps the respiratory system working optimally. It also is a powerful antioxidant and is found in sweet potatoes, kale, spinach, carrots, winter squash, and collard greens.

  Vitamin C: This vitamin has been shown to decrease production of histamine, thus reducing an immediate allergic episode. Green and red peppers, strawberries, kiwi, oranges, potatoes, and cabbage are all high in Vitamin-C.

Stay Hydrated

It is important to drink at least eight glasses of water per day. Studies have shown that when you are dehydrated, your body produces higher histamine levels and that drives allergies.

Exercise

Exercise is recommended for proper function of the immune system and it can temporarily relieve nasal congestion. The increase in circulation clears sinus pressure and allows for easier breathing. Sinus congestion is also loosened by increased temperature in the body’s core.

There are many natural remedies that can combat allergies by strengthening the immune system. To combat allergies more effectively, these practices should begin several months before allergy season. Treating the symptoms as they appear is a less effective than preparing the body ahead of time. Focusing on proper nutrition, supplementation, exercise, and methods that reduce inflammation in the body throughout the year will help prepare the body for allergy season so you can enjoy nature to its fullest, just as Henry David Thoreau did.

Natasha Kubis is a licensed acupuncturist and certified yoga teacher. For more information, visit essential-well.com

Forget About It

Forget About It

By Lavinia Plonka

Scarecrow “They took my arm and they threw it over there!
And then they took my legs and threw them over there!”

Tin Man “That’s you all over.

My first vivid memory of forgetting was from age eight. My mother and I were at a discount outlet diving into bins of underwear like pirates into a treasure chest. “Mine, all mine.” I clutched all the new panties my chubby fingers could grab. Never again would I worry about being in a car accident and having the hospital staff cluck over my ragged briefs. I could move on to more weighty subjects like ending the Cold War or how I could con my father into more spare change so I could win the “Mission Money” collection contest and get a glimmer of approval from Sister Giovanni.

As we stood at the check out, my mother gave me a rare smile, clutching her lace trimmed slip with the adjustable straps. Then suddenly, she hissed, “Where is your pocketbook?” In the orgy of new lingerie, I had misplaced my first, my best, my only pocketbook, a red patent leather fantasy with a cool clasp that you turned. The blood drained from my face. I had $3.00 in that purse. My mother tore out of the line, dragging me back through disgruntled women who were busy burying themselves in discounted blouses. We tore the underwear bin apart. Looked through all the socks. Tears streaked my desperate face. This was it. I’d never have a pocketbook again. Let alone cash. A woman approached us, holding my purse. “Did you lose this, little girl?” she asked kindly. My mother thanked her profusely and turned to me. “What are we going to do with you? I swear you’d forget your head if it wasn’t attached!”

Since then, I have left my purse at parties, in shopping carts, in cabs and in restaurants. I rack my brain to try to retrace my steps, to remember where it may have gone astray. When finally I remember, it is a vivid experience, as if suddenly everything has come together. Like the Scarecrow, my parts were scattered, and now I’ve reconnected the neurons that keep my thoughts together, my head on my shoulders, my purse beside me.

A woman’s purse is like a limb, sometimes even forming a hollow in the shoulder from the years of hauling apparently unnecessary things. Then comes that moment when someone says, “Does anyone have a nail file, band-aid, lozenge, mint, hairbrush, tampon, aspirin, pen, the Yellow Pages, a map of the NYC Subway system, the original eight track of Helen Reddy’s, I Am Woman, the solution to the world energy crisis?” And you casually root around in your purse, muttering something like, “I think I have one in here somewhere,” producing the requested item to the delight and surprise of onlookers. Unfortunately, this magic does not work when you are looking through the same collection of items for your keys as the rain is pouring down, a strange man has followed you into the parking lot, and one of the bags is starting to tear.

When I have the opportunity to travel somewhere without my purse, there is inevitably a moment where I stop dead, trying to figure out what’s missing. What have I forgotten? And sometimes, I have my purse, but I’m so used to carrying it, that I forget it’s there. “Oh my god, I forgot my… oh, heh heh, here it is.” Men are no exception to this phenomenon. I’ve watched my husband Ron ransack the house looking for the glasses perched on his head.

Neuroscientists are always poking around in our heads trying to find our memories. Some speak about the functioning of the amygdala, a tiny little part of the brain that seems to store the unforgettable memories. I’ve hoped that I could delete some of my old memories so that there might be room on that little hard drive for remembering names of people I meet and recent conversations. Surely there is no reason to keep remembering the time I forgot about a concert engagement and got a call from the stage manager asking me where I was.

Muscle memory is bandied about as the reason certain habits don’t quit, like the limp that remains years after a sprained ankle. I once had a client whose ribs were held as tightly as armor. All attempts to introduce movement came to a dead end.

“It’s muscle memory,” she announced.

“Oh, were you injured there?” I asked.

“No, it’s from the corset.”

“Corset?”

“In my last life, I had to wear a corset. It was during the nineteenth century you see.”

I can’t remember where I put my keys, and she can remember her last life. Where is the fairness in this? Then again, I’d hate to imagine the state of her amygdala.

When I was a girl, I had no idea that my Mother, who had survived capture by the Nazis, had PTSD. Neither did she, since we’d never heard of it. I did not understand that certain triggers catapulted her brain’s hard drive into replaying scenes from the war. Whenever my father was even a minute late from work, no matter what the weather, she’d grab her purse and start walking the streets looking in the gutters for his dead body. When my Father came home minutes later, he would launch into violent cursing as he tore out of the house looking for her. One day, we hid her purse. She tore the house apart, then collapsed on the couch. Instantly, my seven-year-old sister, my two-year-old brother–who thought it was a marvelous game, and I jumped on her, pinning her to the couch. “Where is my pocketbook?” she wailed. “What have you done with my pocketbook?” By the time my father got home, five minutes later, we were all sobbing on the couch. To her dying day, she never went anywhere without her purse.

The worst is when I forget myself. It can happen at any moment. I’ll be driving and suddenly I’m at my office, when I was just going to the supermarket. Or I’m walking along a beach, so deeply in conversation with an imagined adversary that suddenly I say out loud, “I really don’t think so,” just as I pass an elderly man who looks at me pityingly. In those brief moments of awakening, I experience clarity, like the moment I remembered where I left my purse. Except in this case, it wasn’t my purse that got forgotten somewhere, it was me. My thoughts are scattered all over, and then whoosh! Everything comes back together, I am re-membered. I grope in my purse for my notebook to jot down this trope of enlightenment. My wallet is not in my purse. I forgot it on the kitchen counter.

Thank goodness that at the bottom of my pocketbook is at least $4.00 in change from the time I forgot to properly close my change purse. . .

Body language expert, Lavinioa Plonka has taught The Feldenkrais Method for over 25 years.
For more information, visit her at laviniaplonka.com

Women Making Music

Women Making Music

By Peggy Ratusz

When Tammy and Al Sheppard contacted me to ask if I’d be interested in resuming my feature “Women Making Music,” for their new women-focused magazine, I was more than thrilled and I accepted readily.  Humbled by the positive feedback I received for twelve years writing this monthly column for WNC Woman Magazine, I aim to continue the tradition of spotlighting in these pages now, area female musicians who by and large, have manifested their desires, making a living via their respective creative musical talents.

As a woman of age, I have been performing for nearly forty-four years–the last seventeen of them in this area. I have come to know Asheville and surrounding regions, to be a loving, net-working family whose motivation is to welcome and lift up natives to newcomers, within the music community.

I am continuously heartened by the number of musicians and venue owners who pay attention, who strive
to do their best to support female artists, bridging the gender disparity gap. Women supporting women co-creating and co-producing collaborative shows and showcases, has become a regular occurrence.
While I feel I have done and will continue to do my part to advocate for girls, young women, women of age and those who identify as women, where I and as I can, there are women who came before me and an increasing
number of females who spearhead events who also continue the advocacy.

As our scenic, inspiration-evoking and beautiful WNC continues to grow, there comes with that growth, the conundrum of when will we, or have we already reached our tipping point? It’s especially challenging for us musicians to reconcile the dilemma that opportunities coming from a thriving cultural and creative music scene (supported in part by tourists) brings, versus the gentrification of certain neighborhoods and areas (because of the influx of residents and hotels), that leaves some having to get creative on a whole different level, in order to afford to stay.

As I ponder this trade-off as it relates to the women making music around these parts, I am compelled to concentrate on the positive aspects the aforementioned conundrum stirs.

For instance, there has never been more female instrumentalists, whose presence on stages further chips away at the disproportion between men and women that still exists. Just last night, I attended Russ Wilson’s weekly, “Wine, Dine & Dance with his Foundry Hotel Orchestra” series at the new Foundry Hotel. On saxophone was Jackie Tatsch and on banjo was new mom, Annie Erbsen.

You can find Linda Shew Wolf or Ruby Mayfield wailing their superb phrases on saxophone at the Wednesday night Blues Jam at the Block off Biltmore at 8pm, or The Guitar Bar’s weekly Saturday jam from 5pm-7pm. Ruby’s got her own band and Linda is now a member of the Rewind House Band. Another notable female saxophonist and one of the founding members of Empire Strikes Brass, is saxophonist, Debrissa McKinney. All of these fine women horn players are becoming more and more sought after.

More and more we find women fronting bands playing killer guitar riffs too! April Bennett, Nicole Nicolopoulos, Lyric and Maddie Shuler come to mind. Female bass players like Kayla Lynn, Aileen Pearlman and Mira Spiritvoice are being recognized. There are drummer/percussionists like Eliza Hill, Nancy Asch and Amanda Hollifield who play regularly. Keyboard players who also write and sing include Rachel Waterhouse, Carrie Morrison and Marika Straw. Fiddle/violinist Lyndsey Pruitt, cellists Melissa Hyman, Brooke German and Jamie Leigh Bennett who have all been classically trained add their feminine juju to a plethora of musical configurations, shows, and acts.

The list is long when it comes to the number of female piano, string, and woodwind players who also teach or play in various area symphonies and orchestras. There’s Rosalind Buda (bassoon, small pipes, and bagpipes), Gabrielle T, Linda Gaines and Rebecca Modrzynski (piano), Holley Ross, Linda Kendall Fields, Anastasia Yarbroough, Mandy Guilfoyle (Suzuki violin, viola, cello, ukulele), Karen Bell (claw hammer banjo) are just a few of the women, that a little digging on the internet will find you.

As for vocalists, you cannot find a better flock of sister songbirds than here in the mountains. Rhoda Weaver, Wendy Jones, Linda Mitchell, Mare Carmody, Ellen Trnka, Paula Hanke, Rebecca O’Quinn, Christina Chandler, Laura Blackley, Melodee Edington-Leyshon, and Whitney Moore are just a few of the premiere singers who reside here.  Scratching the surface of vocal instructors and/or voice coaches include Nancy Simmons, Pam Jones and myself.

Nationally and internationally acclaimed female musicians coming out of Asheville proper include Amanda Anne Platt of the Honeycutters (Americana band) and Caitlin Krisko of The Broadcast (Soul, R&B and Rock band.) Next month, I’ll be profiling another fine feminine, nationally and internationally known player, singer and songwriter, Anya Hinkle from Tellico (Bluegrass/Americana/Roots). She will have just returned from several weeks, touring Europe and she’s going to tell us all about it!

You’ll find no shortage of women musicians, vocalists, and singer songwriters appearing on our local stages in the month of September in the meantime. Below is a list of just some of the show and gig dates of just some of these daughters of the trade. There are so many others that my word-count will not allow me to mention. And to you fantastic females especially whom I did not have room to mention, I invite you to contact me via email, for mentions of your performance dates. Be sure to do so the first of the month prior to the month your performance date.

I will do my best each month, to profile individually, women from all genres and ages, who are working their tails off. Those who co-create, co-produce shows and write original music, those who record, sell and market themselves, sometimes on a shoestring. All of them continuously hone their crafts in order to attract you, the local music supporter, to their performances.

Women musicians, vocalists, and singer songwriters appearing on our local stages in the month of September

Sept 4th      Ruth Cooney, featured artist Southern Appalachian Brewery Jazz Jam, 6:30pm

Sept 6th      Lyric (Leeda Jones), The Spillway, Marion, NC, 8pm

Sept 7th      Hope Griffin, Sanctuary Brewery, 8pm

Sept 7th      Jesse Barry, Mountain Brook Vineyards, 5pm

Sept 8th     Paula Hanke with the “World Beat Band” at Jubilee! Community Church, 7pm

Sept 14th   The British are Coming Show featuring among others, Peggy Ratusz,Isis Music Hall, 8pm

Sept 20th    Linda Mitchell, (The Live Wires) Southern Appalachian Brewery, 8pm

Sept  21st    Westsound, Soul R&B band fronted by Gina Duke–Echo Depot for the Arts Council, 7pm

Peggy Ratusz is a vocal coach, song interpreter, and songwriter. For vocal coaching email her at [email protected]

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